Tuesday, December 4, 2012

What Men Find Sexy & The VS Fashion Show

Tonight is the Victoria's Secret Fashion Show.  Single men will be tuning in for the event.  Married men might find a way to remind their wives that it's on just in case they want to watch it.  Women everywhere will be wondering why they watch it when all it does is remind us a plastic surgeon and gym visit are in order.  But we will still tune in for at least a portion because we all have a little masochist in us.

I want to challenge you (and me) to remember that if there were ever a minority in this world, it would be in the model demographic.  That being said, watch for the music, watch for the sparkling lights and pretty costumes.  And remind yourself that they are only one version of beautiful...it comes in all shapes and sizes.

When I was younger, I was extremely self conscious.  I thought I was too thin, had zero curves, had bad skin, had jacked up teeth, didn't know how to wear make-up, etc.  The list goes on and some of it got better, but the majority I just came to peace with.  And though I still have extreme moments of insecurity, for the most part I can put it behind me.  Because I know we don't take our bodies with us when we leave this life.  And there can be a lot of comfort in remembering what we should focus our time and resources on.

I'd like to introduce you to the first article I found when I typed in "what men find sexy."  I will not be losing make-up anytime soon (you're welcome), but everything below is the opposite of a VS model.  Happy reading! And watching :)

15 things you never knew men find sexy

If you're sure your man is turned off by your trackie bottoms or make-up-free-face, think again.

1 APPARENTLY women spend more than #180,000 in a lifetime on beauty products, but Relate counsellor Mo Kurimbokus says we don't need to. "When a woman doesn't wear make-up, her natural beauty is on display. "Also, some men find it a huge turn-off to kiss a woman and find that they are smeared with lipstick. Make-up can sometimes act as a barrier rather than a come-on."
2 WE'VE all craved abs like Geri Halliwell's but men actually find a potbelly attractive. Mo says: "Men like women to feel soft and curvy, so a little potbelly can be a turn-on and give a woman that natural look. "If she's not 'perfect', then he doesn't feel he has to be either."
3 "WRINKLES bother women more than they do men, as they feel it often spells a loss of youth," Mo says. "Wrinkles can spell experience, which can trigger thoughts of them having great sex together - a huge turn-on for him."
4 THOSE silvery lines are the bane of most women's lives but some men actually like them! Mo explains: "What really does it for a man is a woman who is natural. "Stretch marks remind a man of the child they created together and her commitment to him. It is also an intimate detail of a woman's body that only he is privy to."
5 AFTER a night out with the girls, a phone call to confess how much you miss him seems like a good idea at the time. But Simon Moore, Academic Leader in Psychology at London Metropolitan University, says: "Letting people know how you feel is both reassuring and attractive. We all like compliments."
6 GONE are the days when your man orders a pint, with "a half for the lady". Simon says: "Drinking what you want and not caring what people think show that you are confident with yourself and the choices you make in life."
7 IT'S not all about glamour models for some men. Simon says: "Small breasts are usually pert and this is an indication of youth and physical health. Men are more wired to seek signs of youth and vitality, indicators that she could bear children."
8 MOST women save the lacy stuff for special occasions and opt for comfort. Relationship psychotherapist Paula Hall explains: "Men love catching you in mismatching underwear because it looks like you weren't planning on having sex, but they've managed to persuade you."
9 THIS is something that happens when we forget to take our make-up off after a night out. Surprisingly, as Paula explains: "Men find this sexy because you look like you've just made love. It reminds them of how great the afterglow of sex feels."
10 HEELS look fabulous, but won't feel it after dancing. Psychologist Ingrid Collins says: "Bare feet have a hint of nudity. Walking barefoot suggests naturalness and a rebel against convention, and can clue a man in to fantasies of wildness."
11 THE upkeep on highlights can be huge, but maybe you shouldn't bother. Paula explains: "Like women, men also like a bit of rough. The unkempt roots probably remind him of the girls his mum said he should avoid - which makes them doubly attractive."
12 WE'VE all been there, sitting in the pub, everyone listening intently as you run through the latest joke you heard at the office - until you forget the ending. Mo says: "Men can be intimidated by intellectual women, so getting it wrong makes her far less intimidating and they can relax in her company. It shows vulnerability and triggers his protective instinct."
13 IF you reckon your man is rolling his eyes as you play with nieces and nephews, think again. Mo explains: "It gives him visual evidence that she is patient and caring, and reminds him of his mother's unconditional love."
14 WHEN we pass a certain point in our relationship, going to bed in saucy nightwear is replaced with a need for comfort. Ingrid says: "Very casual clothes suggest the woman is relaxed and confident about herself, and a man can find this very sexy."
15 YOU might think skinny jeans are impossible to wear without getting that tell-tale roll of flab over the waistband. But, according to Paula, men think a little muffin top is cute.
"The curvy shape is synonymous with fertility so the soft fleshiness is tapping directly into his unconscious evolutionary desires."


Myrtle Welch said...

Love your ten things - very insightful. Hope you find this post helpful.

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